I almost wrote this part within my last blog post but I felt it was a bit much and deserved a little slot on it’s own. I suppose it is the counter argument that was running through my head whilst I was writing Cake for the Soul. Being a Gemini there are always two sides to a story, sometimes three, sometimes four, it depends how fast my brain is working at the time. It isn’t unusual that my brain will continue until it has exhausted all possibilities, I am not sure if this is a blessing or a curse but I am grateful that my brain functions at all.
I have titled the post “Soulmates, Mirrors and Synchronicity as these were the words that were running through my head whilst I was writing last time. Basically it is about the people and situations we come across in our day to day lives and if we just stopped and took the time the look below the surface we can be taught some valuable life lessons.
One of my favourite films is “Eat, Love, Pray” that was released in 2010, have you seen it. It is about a woman named Elizabeth Gilbert who was at a cross roads in her life and went travelling, I guess to “find herself” following the break up of her marriage. The film was based on a book that was published in 2006, I never read the book I was far too busy being academic in 2006, in fact I had not even heard of it until a friend mentioned the film back in 2011. Not too far into the film there was a particular moment when I felt a lurch in my heart and emotion in my throat. Before she makes the decision to travel in the film she can be seen wondering around the house, sleeping on the floor, being unhappy and just having no idea what do or “how to be here. “ My emotional responses were a result of knowing exactly how she felt because in 2006 I was doing exactly the same,. I was in the same position as her. I have never been able to articulate to anyone how I felt around that time, there seemed to be no words to describe it or to myself my behavior seemed particular odd so didn’t want to tell anyone anyway. From the moment I saw those scenes for the first time it dawned on me that actually my behavior and thought processes might actually have been normal for somebody living in unhappiness and not knowing what to do or how to cure that never ending restlessness. In retrospect, I was taught a valuable lesson, ideally the information might have been more useful to me in 2006 but sometimes life just does not happen like that does it? More importantly a wound that needed healing was healed.
There are some amazing and uplifting quotes from “Eat, Love, Pray” I particularly like one of her quotes about Soulmates. Too often we often think of soulmates in a romantic sense and often this is not the case. I am a great believer that our soulmates can be anyone, a family member, friend, or even work colleague, it could even be someone who you talk to at the bus stop every morning, just someone who for some reason we feel a real affinity to. They are our mirrors, their fears are our fears, their judgements are our judgements. In one of my weird books it mentions those who act as our mirrors and there is a brilliant line that explains it very well:-
“His face is my face, his fault is my fault. Until I look at the glass and see no reflection. I cannot see reality.”
I believe that soulmates are here to teach and guide us a long the way, if we pay a bit more attention to others and refrain from judgements, fears, suspicion be open hearted and show compassion not only can we learn about ourselves but also those around us too.
“ People think a soulmate is your perfect fit and that is what everyone wants. But a true soulmate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back to your own attention so you can change your life……..a soulmates purpose is to shake you up a bit show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life……..”
Then there is synchronicity, one of my favourite things ever, I love synchronicity! “Synchronicity is defined as “the simultaneous occurrence of events which appear significantly related but have no discernible causal connection.”
I never used to notice synchronistic events, maybe it was because I was driven by the logical brain, but these days I notice them all the time. These days I am much more likely to engage my heart in the process of life and I have come to realise that synchronicity has everything to do with what is in the heart, not necessarily the head. Your heart will always lead you to happiness not your head, your head will always tell you to do the most logical thing and dismiss the things that are in your heart. I do not always find the balance of head and heart easy, in fact it is often a constant daily battle.
Over the past few weeks I have had a few thoughts about picking up my book again, 87 500 worded script that I have never done anything with. The night before I wrote the Cake for the Soul post, I had actually picked up the first chapter and as I began to read it, I realised to my alarm that it completely reflected to how I was feeling. It did cross my mind that is time to pick it up and start working on it again and this was one of the reasons for my loss of sparkle, because the book is dark and I don’t feel that I can write it from a happy place. It was just a thought……
Now we are at the end of a very long and deep post I will leave you with another one of my favourite quotes by Elizabeth Gilbert,
“If you are brave enough to leave behind everything familiar and comforting (which can be anything from your house to your bitter old resentments) and set out on a truth seeking journey, internally and externally, and if you are truly willing to regard everything that happens to you on that journey as a clue, and if you except everyone you meet along the way as a teacher, and if you are prepared, most of all to face and forgive some very difficult realities about yourself-then the truth will not be withheld from you.”
Love Andrea xx