“There are some things in this world you rely on, like a sure bet. And when they let you down, shifting from where you’ve carefully placed them, it shakes your faith, right where you stand.” Sarah Dessen, Someone Like You
Have you ever had a goal or a dream that you have been working towards? You spend hours, days and even weekends working away in order to reach that goal. There comes a point when can almost feel the end result, you can almost see it coming together, the result you have wanted is almost there in front of you, you can smell it, almost touch it. It has become entwined in every part of your life, it is almost like a good friend or relative that you can rely on. You have put in the work so it is going to come together, it cannot possibly go wrong. The day of completion arrives, you wake up and put the finishing touches together and wait for it to all fall into place, you sit and wait but nothing happens, nothing comes together, it is almost as if you never put in any work at all. First you are hit with a denial, it is going to be okay, it is going to come together but as you sit and wait and then wait some more until you feel that thud in the pit of your stomach, followed by a sickening feeling, it washes over you as you realise your efforts have been for nothing. A range of emotions follow, upset, frustration, anger, sheer disbelief, you never saw this coming, you thought it was a sure bet, but all you got was an empty paper bag, a pipe dream. At this point it is difficult to see where do you go from here, what do you do, the dream or goal was your life, you were dependent on it, you trusted it, you put your heart and soul into it only to be kicked in the teeth right at the end. The disappointment is excruciating and all you can think of is how could this happen, why and what now? Where do you go from here? I guess there are no easy answers. There are those justifications that people say to us to make us feel better, “it wasn’t meant to be, it wasn’t right for you, something better will come along etc, all helpful and sometimes they are true but after so much effort and work those words are little consolation to you right now.
When the pain of the disappointment has subsided there comes a time when you have to “cut your losses” and move on. Maybe it is time to focus on something else, maybe a little space is needed for a healing process to take place, what ever is needed and whatever happens it is important to try and remain positive and keep that faith. When you are deciding which way to go I always find focusing on the small but beautiful things in life help maintain a positive mindset in these times….
Stay strong, Lots of love, Andrea xx